The Pen Pal Grilled Cheese special

This week:

I am listening to: Karen Harding, Cafuné, Brand New

What I’m pairing my cold brew with: a new iPhone 6s+, the best job a girl could ask for, and new ideas.


The Pen Pal Grilled Cheese Special


My mom: WHAT? YES? WHAT?


My mother came upstairs to my princess room. When I was little I had the largest room in the house, with it’s own bathroom and it was the entire second floor. I was hanging from my bed like a human slinky when she found me.

My mom: Okay. Well someone is having a good time.

Me: I want a pen pal. All I want in life is a pen pal.

My mom: I thought you also wanted a grilled cheese?

Me: I would like a grilled cheese for lunch.

My mom: Okay. Operation pen pal. Do you know what a pen pal is, Constance?

pen pal
a person with whom one becomes friendly by exchanging letters, especially someone in a foreign country whom one has never met.

I didn’t know. I had seen it on a show like Eureka’s Castle, Mr. Rogers or something. One of those good ones. All I knew is that it was imperative I get a pen pal.

Me: A pen pal is a best friend you have on the other side of the world, not a state. You write letters to them with sometimes pictures and always stamps and you get presents. You have to lick the stamps and put them on the envelope too.

My mom: Ohhh I see.

Me: I only want a pen pal from China or England.

My mom: I will see what I can do. Come downstairs and eat a grilled cheese.

A couple days later my mom gave me a letter with a bootleg postcard from China. She said it was from my new pen pal. I thought I was the coolest person ever. Like many instances with a 5 year old my obsession lasted a few weeks and I moved on to making fake gourmet cakes out of lava rocks.

I’m not sure if I believe in heaven. But if I did, I would be my mom’s pen pal (yes I’m 30 years old. I was born October 9, 1985). I would write and say that I can no longer eat a grilled cheese because of my lactose intolerance. A lactose intolerance that is becoming immune to Walgreens generic lactaid. I would tell her it’s ruining my life and she would understand because she was equally dramatic.

I would also give her an update on the current presidential election. I would tell her that she said, “I don’t believe in the republican party or the democratic party. I just believe in parties” way before Samantha Jones did on Season 3 of Sex and the City.

Almost 4 years ago I finally got my real pen pal. It was Aimee. The first semester of graduate school in Boston was when I started writing my blog. One day Aimee sent me a Facebook message. She told me she wanted to send me something in the mail. I said okay. Aimee and I had never been close prior to my departure from Austin. We were acquaintances that gave fake hugs and smiles. At that time I was a jealous B and could not see us being friends. A week later a very nice card arrived in the mail.

September, 2012

I just wanted to congratulate you on the blog and stuff. I have been reading it and love it. How are you doing? Do you like it up there? Everything is good here, I am happy. Austin is Austin. Anyways, when is your birthday? Let me know…..”

That first card was very special to me. I still hadn’t made friends and felt very isolated and lonely. I pinned the card to the wall at my desk where my fellowship was. I wrote her back. After that she wrote me back.

October, 2012

Happy birthday girly! Have a good one you deserve it.

Xo <3, Aim

September 29, 2013,


Hi sweet girl! I miss writing letters! So I’m starting this back up. Today I turned 23! I feel like my life has drastically changed over the last 6 months- to a year. BUT today I woke up feeling very refreshed, and rejuvenated & just OKAY with everything in my life. Are you still loving life in Boston? Are you coming home soon? Boys?! Fill me in on everything. Love!

Xo <3, Aim

March, 2015


Thank you so much for the letter! I love all of those songs attached. Thank you for being there for me. I’m still waiting for things to be 100% better. My days are okay, but man- nights are rough! You’re right though. I need to write music again. I haven’t tried writing or anything yet- but I promised I will soon if you promise to write something soon. I’m sending you this LIGHTS shirt for inspiration. I’m happy to know you….

xo<3, Aimee & Sam

July 6, 2015


Sending you love from California! We will take a trip here together one day!

Xo <3, Aim

Those are some of my favorites. Every holiday, every travel, every heartbreak, we sent something to each other. She may not have been on the other side of the world, but I think my mom would agree that Aimee was my pen pal.


May 30, 2016

Dear Aimee,

Right now you are in another state having a great time with your cousin and the pups. I did laundry today and shaved one leg. IDK I got really distracted. I am about to go swimming with Lexi and Brittney instead of making a grocery list. I miss you. Just wanted to say ILY and you will always be one of my best friends. See you soon.